I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the idea of collaboration. An article I wrote entitled, A Room of Her Own, about collaborating with my daughter, Ava, appears on The Joyful Mother’s website today. I’d love it if you checked it out!
I witnessed a beautiful example of collaboration on the playground recently. A four-year-old girl had bravely climbed to the top of a rope tower and called her mom for help when it was time to climb down. If my almost four-year old, Rhys, were at the top and asked for my help, I’d rush over to carry her down, or tell her how to climb down step by step. No problem there. I assume both are fine instincts.
Yet I was drawn to the following interaction: This mom said, “I hear you’re scared. You’ve climbed up higher than you ever have before – how exciting! Can you think of some solutions to get down from the top of the tower?” The little girl thought for a moment then replied, “I could put my foot here and my hand here.” The mom continued this conversation with her daughter all the way down the tower, at times making suggestions when her daughter was stuck, empowering her daughter to face her fear, think through and make decisions.
The little girl beamed with pride. I was inspired. Not inspired enough to actually try something similar with Rhys. Honestly, it’s easier, faster and less aggravating to do things for her or tell her what to do. But I’m thinking about it. I’ll keep you posted!