I can tell you about many of the things that make my husband an amazing parent (his sense of humor, his willingness to play, his tenderness toward his daughters), but I’d also like to share one specific way he lights up my heart as a father to our daughters.
Last year, my husband started a new tradition. Every month or two, Mike mails a love letter to our daughter, Ava (9), telling her all the things he admires about her and his feelings about being her father.
He sets a monthly reminder on his Blackberry to write about the growth he’s seen in her, the fun interactions they’ve had that month, his hopes and dreams for her. He expresses his love for her in details big and small.
I’ve been working on a love letter blog post to Ava for her 9th birthday for days. The feelings are there; the words are not. Unlike me, Mike doesn’t put off expressing his feelings until he has crafted the perfect sentiments. He jots down his thoughts, prints them out and mails them off.
And who doesn’t want to feel seen and known?
Ava tells me she loves these letters and feels really happy when she gets them. I can’t think of anything better than having a father that really sees his children and takes time to express his feelings.
Mike is aware of the importance of his relationship with our daughters and of the impact he will have on their future success in intimate and professional relationships. As soon as Rhys can read, I trust he’ll write to her also.
I love and admire that he takes his role in our daughters’ lives so seriously.
Here’s to this great idea and to dads and daughters everywhere!
How do you nurture your relationships with your children and make sure they feel seen and appreciated? Please share your ideas, big and small, in the comments.